Once you’ve decided that you want to try anal play, you need to figure out how to tell your wife, husband, or partner. If they’ve already said that they’re into it, that conversation will probably be pretty easy. But sometimes, having the anal talk can work better with a little planning.
- Don’t make anal a surprise.
- Give them time to think about it.
- Offer them info on anal play.
If your partner is up for trying anal play, there are still things to talk about first. Here are some good questions to ask them during your anal talk:
– “Have you done it before? What is your favorite anal sex position?”
– “Are you interested in using a toy like the Rimming Plug? Have you ever used anal toys?”
– “What is it about anal play that you enjoy, do not enjoy, or are curious about?”
– “What would make this feel like a successful experience for you?”
The more you know about why your partner wants to have anal sex, and the more you can tell them about why you want to do it, the more you can create an experience that will leave you both smiling.
When each other reaches the desire for progress and exploration, the next step can be taken.
Try lying flat with your legs apart. It’s super relaxing and is often considered the easiest position for anal sex.If you find this anal sex position above isn’t as comfortable as you’d like, you can bend one leg at the hip and knee, resting that leg on a pillow. Find the angle that allows you to relax into the surface of the bed.
Face up and face down are great for hands and toys, as well as anal intercourse and pegging. But there’s nothing stopping you from being on top, either. It’s possibly THE best position for first-time anal. One advantage to being on top during anal intercourse and pegging is that the receiver is in full control of the depth and pace of penetration. You can get just the right angle and speed that works for you. Plus, there’s easy access to the genitals for some extra pleasure.
If the receiver is a prostate-owner, he can slide down and then rock his hips from front to back. That levers the dildo or penis towards the P-spot for an out-of-this-world prostate orgasm! You can also try these first-time anal positions face to face or reverse it and face away from your lover. You can also have the giver sitting on a chair or couch, which will allow them to touch you more easily. And if you like showing off, place a mirror where you can both see it.